Small Group

November 30, 2010 at 10:07 PM Leave a comment

This evening in our small group we dug even deeper into this topic that has been so dear to me for the past several months. That topic is community, more particularly how to be a better community. We watched an incredible video, about a son caught in a lie, and a father tell him there was NOTHING that he could do that would make him love his son less. NOTHING. The opening question was “Why do people act unnatural when they are doing or have done something they know is wrong?” Some of us in the group threw out some personal thoughts and reflections, and the next question asked was “What causes people to lie?” Answers like shame, desire to seem perfect, and fear filled the room for quite some time. This led to the question “What causes this search for perfection?” I answered that social stereotypes and standards could be the cause, and another person suggested having too high personal standards for yourself.

 … and then from that point the conversation developed into a very deep and multi-faceted discussion about how to hold others accountable, helping each other, allowing yourself to be vulnerable (especially when expecting others to be vulnerable in return).

It was highly agreed upon that we are called to carry each other’s burdens and love our neighbors as ourselves. How do we do that? We allow ourselves to be vulnerable, honest, humble, and caring. We do not act in judgement, but in love. It was also highly agreed upon that this is easier said than done. How do you stop gossipping about that woman down the street? How to you stop teasing that freckled-face boy on the playground? How do you give up some of your time, money, comfort, childish fears, imperfections, and vulnerabilities to help somebody else? You take small steps, and you ask yourself how what you are doing and saying would make you feel. Would it make you smile? Would it make you cry (in a good way, or in a bad way)? Would you get angry? Would it hurt you physically? Would it help you?

I am very lucky that I was raised with that way of thinking, but sometimes I do not always succeed in loving others as well as I should. It is not often that I make fun of somebody for being different, it is not common that I speak harshly of someone behind their back, but sometimes I struggle with taking the attention off of myself and onto others. I get into my own little world and begin to think it is “All About Me”. It is times like those that I find myself trying very hard to please other people, until I burn out. I still need to find a balance, and I think that slowly but surely I am getting closer to that goal.

It all comes around to the golden rule: do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Happy Adventures,


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