When you acknowledge how mean you come across, it sounds silly.

January 8, 2011 at 5:45 PM 7 comments

So, a couple of days ago I was in a really sour mood. I blogged about my stresses, and I even went as far as to address a very specific to-remain-nameless person on my blog. But I still have SO much to be thankful for. I am thankful for everyone who has ever helped me grow, including the person that has hurt me so much since mid-2010.

You see, before this person started making it hard for me to sleep at night she helped me out a lot. I looked up to her, and I learned things I should and should not do from her. Partly from watching and evaluating my OWN decisions, and partly from recieving some good advice. Just because things have changed in the dynamic, I still appreciate the history I have with her. The history we have makes the strained relationship that much harder, but I wouldn’t trade it.

And the other day, I grew even more because of this person. This person was publicly rude to my mother, and I wanted to hurt her with my words. I was very close to telling her something very negative and hateful, but I remembered a very valuable lesson. A lesson that she made absolutely certain I learned over the summer and into this year– there are some things that you think are good ideas, but when they hurt somebody badly enough they are very hard to take back.

So I didn’t say anything mean after all.

And you know, I feel really good. For a while I was frustrated about not being able to “get her back”, but I appreciate myself so much more for being my best person. I could have easily been a very nasty person, but I don’t need to PROVE how mean I can be.

I realized how stupid that sounded in my head, so I decided that even if I didn’t have anything nice to say, I did not need to be rude either.

Next time you feel like being negative, think a few times about this sentence: “Yes! I am going to show everyone how nasty I am, and I will definitely make friends that way!”

When you realize how ridiculous that sounds, try your best not to be mean, and thank yourself for it later.

I actually still regret blogging what I blogged a couple days ago, but I can’t take it back.

Happy Adventures,


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Apologize to Myself The Hardest Thing is Not Being Able to Walk Away (song lyrics I wrote)

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  • 1. missaannissa  |  January 8, 2011 at 6:49 PM

    I am in LOVE with this post. Like, in love with it. I have a hard time being a bigger person. When someone burns me or something a simple as a rude receptionist, I have a hard time keeping quiet. If I do keep quiet, I stew about it which makes me twice as mad and it takes twice as long to let it go and move on. You are right though, by showing everyone you can be mean, doesn’t show anyone, anything, except that you can be mean!

    Great words of wisdom, I think I will take this advice next time! 🙂

    • 2. Heather  |  January 8, 2011 at 8:44 PM

      A wise old woman (my Dad’s mother) once told another wise old woman (my mother) that 90% of the time when somebody (especially a stranger) is rude to you that they are not really mad at you. Sometimes they have had a hard time with something or someone, and you are the next person they come into contact with. Because they couldn’t take out their frustration on what/who they were frustrated with, they often take it out on the next person they talk to or see.

      But yes, it is VERY hard. Very hard indeed.

  • 3. missaannissa  |  January 8, 2011 at 6:51 PM

    PS: My favorite color is purple, I love music, I love photography and I believe that people are always evolving into someone new each day. 🙂

  • 4. lolalili  |  January 8, 2011 at 8:06 PM

    Hope I learn this lesson very quickly!!! I can be lethal

    • 5. Miss Niss  |  January 9, 2011 at 11:12 PM


      Me too! I scare myself sometimes ha!

  • 6. Miss Niss  |  January 10, 2011 at 10:32 PM

    Update: I had someone make a really nasty comment to me and instead of snapping back with something equally mean and hurtful…I smiled and let it go. Gotta tell ya, instead of spending the next 2 hours dwelling over it…I feel pretty good just not saying anything!

    Thought of you!

    • 7. Heather  |  January 10, 2011 at 10:52 PM

      Aww, thank you for letting me know this! It is so encouraging and reassuring to know that I am not totally useless on the internet. ^_^ I am very glad that you feel good about yourself for not saying anything. It’s actually quite liberating, because then you just quit stewing on it.


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